The Perils of Social Media In Divorce Recovery || DD261 || David and Rachel

[00:00:02] Welcome everyone out there. We're back on video. I got together. Welcome back to the Divorce Devil. David and Rachel on the mic. Today we have a different kind of a podcast. I think we've done this before. Yeah. So we're going to be late. And 61 episode friends go. And this is new. Done this before? So for you guys that are on social media a lot and you, so let's say you're going through a divorce and you're on social media a lot because you're a

[00:00:29] social media hand, which is okay. And everybody's getting divorced. Jelly Roll. Who else? Bernie. Somebody else. There's a lot of people announcing their separations that have happened a long time ago. On social media. Yeah. So especially if it's someone who's heavily on social media and they're on the end of the role and all things, right? We had the big JLo. She's been married 17 times and she's finally found herself apparently. So I love that for anybody that realizes that they may be part of the

[00:00:59] problem. I feel like Jelly Roll again or research that the other night that he was going to say it once. He was going to say it in one city that they are still friends. They will always be best friends. Their lives are just in different spaces now and respect that. I think because she has a podcast and a lot of things on my social media read or our podcast thing and writing books and all those things that I'm trying to do in my life.

[00:01:28] And I think a lot of hers is she's so open about everything. And sometimes that's not how your partner wants to be. And I think we see that. And when I first started doing the podcast and stuff like that, there was some things I was like, hey, kids don't listen to that one because it might just trigger you.

[00:01:46] Trigger you. And our kids have decided not to. And there are some where I'm like, hey, listen to this. Especially my daughter, I will say, hey, can you listen to this? Or is this the same memory? Because we all had your version, their version, and the truth is the out in the middle.

[00:02:04] And we perceive things different or how someone said something to based on our tone, based on how we feel, based on the ex has been making you mad, the ex-wife make you mad, the new person in your ex's life upset you. So I think because social media and all the things that you have instant access to all these things, even five years ago, I feel like there wasn't a lot of talk about her. It was like, oh, let me make some money, let me do a silly dance, let me do a fundraiser, bucket challenge, all the things.

[00:02:34] And it was funny because one of my friends has reached out and because she knows that happened in the podcast. Hey, have you ever had this weird thing like a celebrity that you follow is getting divorced and you didn't see it coming? Did that trigger you? Because like maybe you didn't see yours coming or how do you navigate? See, it's all we don't know. When it's all you know, you can go for a coffee, you can go for dinner, you can have a girls night, you can give them more access.

[00:03:02] We have a divorce podcast, so I reach out to Bunny and, hey, do I reach out to David, reach out to Jollyville and say, hey, we have the podcast, you should listen. Not that it's perfect, but we have a lot of great insight and a lot of our guests have helped us see different things that we may not have known. We're going to mention again because apparently it's true for me and Kyle saying I was spawning. I love you. And for those of everything that was attending, I might have been a little. I might have been a little, but it's all out of the way. No, you were. I didn't know that. Good job, Trial.

[00:03:32] That helped me learn what that meant and that there's actually other versions of fight or flight. And so, again, we are perpetual learners. We want to give you the information that we have. We don't ever want you to be like, they don't know the fight they're talking about. There's a lot of times we don't, but it's not generally what we're talking about because believe it or not, we have been doing this a while. And I think, again, just because we have the podcast, we are accessible or a lot of people aren't accessible. Those people that you look up to on social media all the same.

[00:04:01] You have a great day and then hear that your favorite couple are divorcing. I see it like this, though. We're celebrities and they can look up to us. Yes, and we can help you. Guess on here and give us a different insight because a lot of times Dave and I will agree. Disagree. Disagree. Or disagree because of our story. Disagree because she's wrong. And I accept that. What? A hundred episodes again, I would say. Shatapotopty.

[00:04:31] But now I'm like, you know what? I can admit when I'm wrong. I can admit that I may not know all the things that. What the hell? I don't try. And I think, too, is I think a lot of times when we're giving advice, it's maybe you're not going through that right now. And then in a week from now, you'll be like, oh, wow. I remember they had said that and now going through it. And then a new episode comes out. You're like, oh, I already dealt with that. You're on that same issue. He cheated. I didn't cheat. So I don't have to worry about that. Or vice versa. Vice versa.

[00:05:01] Ooh, words. Words are hard. So I think we talked about the train and getting on the train and all stuff like that and how your recovery is. I see when something's in your face all the time, because now the only thing that's on social media right now is jelly roll and bunny's divorce, right? Yep. You may not have been thinking about it right now. But you turn on social media, especially if you're like marketing and all this stuff. It's all over everywhere. Everybody's talking about it.

[00:05:27] So unless you live in Iraq, you probably didn't know. But now, you know, and it could be like, oh, she hadn't posted anything of him since blah, blah, blah. My ex-husband never posted anything about me. Maybe it was longer than I realized that something was wrong. Or my new partner doesn't say anything on social media about me.

[00:05:50] Or all the things that happened that you may not think are an issue until that person that you admire or follow. So how about how about the listener? OK, there's three listeners. There's the beginning stage or the pre-stage. You either just got divorced or you just started the process and or you are getting ready for the process. In the middle, you're in the thick of things. And then in the end, you're done and you're trying to heal.

[00:06:15] So how would you address each of those three as in terms of going down the rabbit hole on social media? I think we you had discussed this a long time ago when you said when you first get on when you first are going to divorce, you have to get off social media. Yeah. So there you go. You have to time yourself on that rabbit hole. Yes. Turn into depression and AI hasn't asked us yet. Are you depressed?

[00:06:45] Maybe you should get help. AI hasn't said, hey, these are signs and symptoms of you are you might be an alcoholic or hey, the way you're talking or the way you're rabbit holeing, you might need an intervention. You might need to listen to David and Rachel. You might need to find. So we need to do we need to do what AI bought that that sends people to us. Oh, yeah. Yeah. I need to learn all that. I want to be like a Wally.

[00:07:14] Like an old school robot that's actually got. Danger, danger, Will Robinson. Wow. OK. So. Yeah. So beginning, middle and end. How do they do it? OK. The beginning. OK. Go on. No, your turn. No, no. That's fine. That's what you do. So the middle, that means that you got so much stuff going on. And I don't you always make time for social media. But if you're in the middle, ease off that again. Ease off the social media because you're trying to figure out yourself.

[00:07:42] You're trying to figure out the co-parenting phase. You're splitting up the finances or whatever. Yeah. But sometimes social media is an is a relaxation outlet for people. Relaxation. This thing because I just popped in my head. I mean, I just did. I think. Do you think it's if you need to be on social media? Maybe that's like your go to. Maybe start like a different account. Have a friends and family account. You can reach back in and all of things.

[00:08:09] But I feel like a lot of times when someone tagged me in something or we had gone out, it would trigger something else. Right. So it's kinding and oh, I went out and then oh, aren't you going to divorce? Why are you smiling? Why are you laughing? Or did you have a great time? Did you spend money that you don't have? Oh, who's that person in the picture? And you get all these questionings from other people that you may not be ready to answer. Or what? There were people. What?

[00:08:38] A lot of times when someone was like, oh, where were you? Why didn't you ask me to come out with you? It would laugh in it. I didn't know it was going. And that's how most of my life rolls these days. But I think in the middle. You then I don't know if that's a good idea. Do you make one that's just your rabbit hole in? Because if you're asserting divorce on your family and friends, all the things keep coming out. Keep coming up. Divorce. That person likes this page.

[00:09:07] You like that page and that person likes this page. Wait, you're happily married. Why are you on a divorce page? Oh, you did this. Why are you on that page? And my sister was like the social media detective. One little thing would change or be off or there were being four pictures not in a row with my ex in there. She was like, what's going on? Why was he there when you were there? Why are you taking different vacations? Why are you taking different vacations? She was on. I don't know what you're talking about.

[00:09:35] Because it was tell a sister, tell a friend, tell a phone, tell everybody kind of thing. And so a lot of times you, what is that one? I think the voyeurism. Voyeurism. Social media. Voyeurism. Were you just walking? You're just scrolling and not commenting, not interacting. I can tell you an instant. One of my friends was getting divorced and she had her full name as her ID.

[00:10:03] And then all of a sudden it was her first and middle name. And I was like. So how about the dangers of oversharing? That's a thing too. And it's a thing in writing. And oversharing and stalking. Man, there's so many. Oversaring, stalking, bashing. Man, it's not eating. That's like anything you put on the internet can and will use the can. Yeah. Especially early on when you're. Oh, yeah.

[00:10:32] Even now people are like, hey, to that lady that cut me off in blah, blah, blah. And then they post your. Rice plate. Rice plate. And what street you've turned on to. What your grocery shopping. What the hell? And then we tell our kid. Don't tell your address. Don't say where you're. Go to school. Don't do all the things. And someone else can ask you. And just because you said, oh, I had a great time finally with blah, blah. We went this place or. And they disseminated. Like your sister. They just take it apart.

[00:11:02] They find the negative in it regardless what you say. Two. With the friends and family account. Maybe there needs to be an account. That's divorce account. Divorce account. Not a full time account. But I just need this now while I'm going through divorce. I'm going to copyright that. So if anybody. Why don't we. Why don't we do. A divorce. Divorce social media. Where you can put anything. And it won't go out. But they'll probably get hacked. You know. Yeah. It'll be like. What was that? It'll be like. Ashley Madison. Yeah. What's the Madison lady? Ashley.

[00:11:31] Ashley Madison dot divorce. For those who don't want anybody to know they're going for a divorce. This is not a dating site. But Selvan. Selvan's going to send us an email. We hacked you. You owe us this much money. Yeah. Damn. Social media stuff. Bad guy that was on the Megatron with his mistress. He was like a big corporate guy. Yeah. Not a friend. That's dumb. If they wouldn't have dropped and got all crazy. Nobody would have ever known. Keep swaying us. Keep swaying.

[00:12:00] The camera's on us. Be still. Don't move. If they don't see. Yeah. So the fact that they jumped around and ducked and everything. They got busted. Yeah. Yeah. The kiss cams when it's like you're sitting next to your sister and you're like. No, I don't do that. But I think social media is helpful. How about cousins? Cousins. Cousins. Cousins. No? I don't like it. You didn't have kissed your cousin? You didn't have kissed your cousin? That's a different episode. All right.

[00:12:31] I don't know. All right. That's a different episode. Definitely not. Listen, mom. We'll see them are divorced. But any of them that would say. Kissing cousins are divorced. I love me. That moment. Let me know. Let me know. I do it whenever. You didn't hear David. I'll be. So basically what we're saying. So let's talk about the end. Yeah. So sometimes at the end of your divorce, you're happily mad too.

[00:12:59] So you get on that thing and anything you post can be brought up later. Oh, that is so. Here is what we can call it, Pans. It's fair. Hold on. Experience is getting ready to talk. And again. Did I do it? I don't know. I had to go back a little. Did you do? Yeah, you did. But when people get divorced and have that divorce party and they're all in Vegas and it's, oh, what happens in Vegas? They say they're vegan. You're divorced. So it doesn't really matter. But your auntie's judging you. Your auntie's. So what happened there? Why is that? What? And you're like, oh, man.

[00:13:28] I don't know why. You'll see that. Who tied me? And I think social media for me right now, because I'm trying to write some books and try to get everything finished and do all these things. Helping me in my nursing skills and certification. So social media has become this. I'm going to better me now. Before, social media was like, oh, who the fuck is getting divorced now? And why is that person in the picture with somebody else? I don't know that person. Why is my family having something that they didn't invite me to it? Blah, blah, blah. Right.

[00:13:58] And so now I'm using AI in a better space. Where before, those divorce party posts are like, yeah, they burn their dresses and they're in Vegas and they're like, all the Chippendales are around them and all the thing. So I think we have to, maybe there's some questions we could come up with, like, for the devil added onto the website or something. Okay.

[00:14:25] The questions I should ask myself before I post when I'm in the middle, beginning of a divorce, middle of the divorce, and then you sign the papers and all the things. Then the afterlife of divorce, anything that you post, we have to, if you're a kid, you have to go, it is only to affect my kid in one year or two years. Scary. And if they're like three years from being 18, then okay, after 18, do whatever the fuck you want because it's your social media, you do you, blah, blah, blah.

[00:14:51] I think there is a fine line of what you should say and what you shouldn't say, whether you fucking hate your ex or not. Posting it out there, people are judging you. Especially when you have kids. Now they're because either they're your friend or his friend or your mutual friends and a lot of people block their ex. A lot of people, some fandom numbers will block you and you don't even know it, unfriend you, and you're like, hey, wait, I thought we were a friend. Why is there a friend?

[00:15:21] Add friend button. That's fine because peace is all for you. And if you're not giving peace, then you're also not going to receive peace. And if you're pulling this shit, then it's going to come back to you. So I think you, I think that little voice that's in your hand, like the angel and devil need to be really loud. It's in the mail when you're like, you might go, guess what my fucking ex did. He did this or guess what she did, blah, blah, blah, blah.

[00:15:47] And here's all the text messages and here's all the things to prove that I'm right or that was right. There's just so much stuff that has to be somewhere in your mind when you're posting online. And I think the reason for the podcast too was that when celebrities are online and they're doing it, a lot of times like we like our privacy at this time. You finally share everything. What privacy?

[00:16:09] And so now, not as someone who's not famous, you want your privacy, but your job is to be famous. You made your job famous. And a lot of times, especially if you're in the divorce realm, we have to be getting divorced or, you know, someone that's whatever it is, your result, your parents are divorced, whatever. You want to reach out to them and be like, honey, it does get better, but they don't fucking care about you right now.

[00:16:36] And so now that these people are getting divorced, it has triggered you. And I think a lot of it is if there's so many similarities in that, you might just need to not follow them anymore or until you're ready to not hear about divorce. Or my Pinterest is all writing a book. How you do this? How you use prompts? How to blah, blah, blah. How to write better? How to what people what are people lacking information about divorce?

[00:17:06] What topics should we go over? Things like that, where if you're just down the divorce rabbit hole. If you got to get on social media, if you got to get on social media, don't respond. Just view. Yeah. Yeah. As someone who does multiple things on the Internet. Now, when I came in, you had the news feed on Google's going on that was playing background. It got four different pages on. David has three large things that tell a proctor thing that will tell him what to say, but maybe not tell him what to say. Hey, probably won't want to say that to the priest.

[00:17:36] How divorce devil works. He's got all these little things and gadgets. You don't see like all the things you might be able to see a little. But he's fully connected a lot of the time. If you're having a bad day with an employee or, yeah, you just turned off my camera, it's fine. Behind the scene. They all. Behind the scenes. Behind the scenes.

[00:18:06] Hey, friend. Behind the scenes. Behind the scenes. You got all your funding. Yeah. Oh, yeah. That was funny. Someone who connected a lot of the time or that phone, you're connected all the time. Right. And you're on the radio and all the other. Listen to that. You can step away from it. But if your job is online all day, how do you get away from it?

[00:18:32] How do you not go down the rabbit hole that, you know, I'm in a different space than these people. They had just got me just filed in the beginning of May. I've been out of this for a year. Maybe journal. Maybe find some peace and, hey, I can't. I got through that. Bunny is that any threat? General is definitely going to get through it, right? I would love to interview someone that works at Instagram that's going through a divorce. That'd be awesome. Oh, yeah. Because their whole entire algorithm in. The more it's in. Crazy.

[00:19:02] And nobody tells you the rule. Right. So how would a person that works at Instagram handle their divorce? We don't know anybody that's more famous than I was. We're famous. But you know anybody famous. More famous or more famous. And we serve the dance. And you have any connections? Let us know because we'd love to reach out. If any of you all have weird stories or how you've healed through something or how. Because in the beginning that I don't fucking care works too. Yeah. My friends had some wild ass stories.

[00:19:32] I think too a lot of times in the beginning of mine was all sad songs. So then it was all sad things. And then poems about being hurt. And then poems about loss. And poems about finding yourself. And then songs about this. And then my kids would listen to my playlists. And I'm like, what? Are you okay? What's wrong? It was just like divorce music. It's fine. I'll fight. And then. Baby come back. You can blame it all on me. Yeah. And then it'll come on now. One of my heavily rotation. Whatever. Bands on Apple Music.

[00:20:02] And it'll be like. You know. One of those songs. I'll play not to say it. I'm like. It has no effect on me. I'm like. Hmm. Right before I get on one. Oh. It's okay. You won't get past it. And again. I only cry when Kyle's here. Who makes me cry. Got no kidding. That's right. You kind of quit crying too. That's okay. Yeah. Because. Because you were like. You're on the ropes. You're defending yourself. Oh my God. Kyle. I felt like I was wrong. And felt like I. I felt like. A little squirrel that's in the corner. In his neck. And he will like.

[00:20:31] Cutting down the tree. And you're like. Ah fuck. I need my nuts. I need to hold on to my nuts. And. Yeah. And y'all saw that. I was a little nuts. I do love you. And all of his friends that thought I was like. Really mad. I wasn't. But I probably was a little. Petty. We're going to say petty. So we're going to go back to social media. Social media wasn't around when we were. High school. Oh no. Or even 20s. Or even 30s. Thank God. And we. Our kids only know social media. Yeah. And cell phones. Yeah. They have no other clues.

[00:21:01] The 15 year old. We were. I saw the. On social media. The things that anybody was born after 20. 2000. What they hadn't experienced. And I was like. Or what did we follow? What? Oh. Clackers. Google. Is older than my 15 year old. So he's had nothing else. I was telling Lance. At the day. House. First in college. I had to go to the library. Write. For however much money. VHS tapes.

[00:21:31] For a class. That was technically online. So I had to watch tape one. Take my notes. Go to class. Watch tape two. Take my notes. Go to. To be prepared for my class. And I think that was like. Communications 101. And this. Watch. Citizen Kane. Because we're going to watch it. And then. What? Hey. Watch a broadcast. On channel seven. Yeah. So. Or baby Jesus. You know. I'm not to communicate now. I did not need that class. I could teach that class.

[00:22:01] Baby. We are not watching. Citizen Kane. Baby. Jesus. Holy baby Jesus. Grandma Jesus. Teenage Jesus. Whichever Jesus you want to follow him. Any parting words. That was a good podcast. That was different for us. Yeah. And it really came from. I'm lost. In the summer. I went in. No. You're off all the time. I don't. I get off a lot. No. So. I've been. In the house. Prepping.

[00:22:31] All the things to move. Probably. I'm going to have surgery on the 29th. So I'm trying to get things together. Before I'm laid up for a couple weeks. And just things in life. Right. And so. At the end of the day. When I'm sitting. I'm literally just. Scroll. My. My lips. Crawling. And it's. How to be a witch. How to do this. Hey. Witches and nurses are the thing. Just. What? Yeah. And so. Just the randomness of social media. And then. Everything on your TikTok. Jelly roll bunny.

[00:23:00] Someone else talked about. Oh. She's been dating to die from Nickelback. Then all the Nickelback songs come on. And all. And my phone is listening. God damn it. Ah. Shit. But you know you're only here in Nickelback. And so. It really. Is. Something that. We may not be. Directly. Impacted by. Right. We're not. We're not directly impacted by their divorce. Right. Because we've been to the bore. It brings up all that shit. Oh. They're going to have to. Have a court date. They're going to have to be lit. They don't have any children together. The daughter.

[00:23:30] His daughter's 18. So there's no custody. But they have a farm. And he has her pocket. And her multi-million dollar thing. And he's got his multi-million dollar thing. And I'm sure there was no prenups. Because when they were both starting out. They were. They talk about it all the time. That they were like. Young kids. Trying to figure it out. She saw him. And was like. That's my man. And they were married very quickly after. So they. In the last 10 years. Have built something. That a lot of people don't. And now they have to decide. Who gets what. And what. And again.

[00:23:59] Hopefully they can. Take the route of best friends. And do. And it's not. As terrible of a lot of divorce. As we see online. And oh. 150 million dollars. I'm like. I know. Yeah. So. I think. There's a reliability. But there's not. And you got to find that space. And. I'm sad for them. That they don't work out. Because no one goes into it. To get divorced. But I hope it's. Peaceful. And I hope it's. Amicable.

[00:24:29] As much as it can be. They're going to go. And they're. There's going to be. I'm pissed off. I'm mad. We weren't connecting. All the things. There's going to be. The podcast. The drunk podcast. There's going to be the. Hopefully. Two people. Can decide. That there's still. It exists. In this world. And. It's not true. Especially when they have kids. And again. That he helped raise. Her. The daughter. And he has his son. And see how much I know. And I'm old. So.

[00:24:58] Obviously you're on social media a lot. I saw the podcasting. I love podcasts. I love listening to them. I love listening how they. In their intros. Their extras. There's contact. Power much thing. But their sponsor. Hey we're looking for funky. I need to make some good money. Get pretty deep. New car. If you haven't bought a new car lately. Okay. What was he saying? Sponsors don't think. So. When they add. I'd put in their ads.

[00:25:28] And what they say. And who says what. And we know. I'd have a lot. And David just. Exist. Just hanging up. Matter of fact. I'm watching the USA. People. Zero baby. Who hope. Yeah. And so. I think. See how connected we are. Even without being connected. Right. In your phone. I have your phone. For my video. And so. The connectivity. Just in this small space. Is great. And when you're out there. You're getting a version of something. David and I are humans right here.

[00:25:58] He's lost in TV. While we're doing this. I'm talking. But. Without all the things. We wouldn't be able to heal. I wouldn't know that there's. Four different types of fight and flight. Or whatever. There's a lot of things that. Correct. I could go find a book. And do all the things. Which. Go read a book. Friends. It's fun. It's great. I had. I'm recently. Backing the pages of the book. And. Because you know. It's disconnected. You know. Reading is fundamental. Bam. Reading.

[00:26:29] Reading is fundamental. Kuntikente can teach you how to read. Okay. Well. Right now. Anybody can teach you how to read. Because. Again. We are so connected. And. There's so many. Resources out there. Therapy resources. Get some better help. Not that we're not. And. So many things. But there is help out there. If you're stuck in it. If you've been triggered. Because bunny and jelly roll. Are getting divorced. Just snack for the day. Get in a tower. Make a chart. I'm a big.

[00:26:58] I want to check off all the things I did. Sometimes I'll ever write something in. So I can cross it off. That's where I am. So. Journal. Go for a walk. Take the dog for a walk. I'm sure the dog is like. Hey. This is the nature. Cool. I don't know what that looks like. Like it. And we love that you listen. And maybe you're listening to it on a walk. Or whatever. But. Find some peace. Even though you're surrounded by other people getting divorced. Or it might have triggered you. And again. We love that you listen. But also unplug. And take time for yourself. Bet you early on. Don't be texting like.

[00:27:28] That fucking asshole did this. Blah blah blah blah blah. He's up on the. Has someone screenshot that. He's up on the. He's doing a screenshot in it. He's up on the social media guys. That's all I can say. Take a break. I don't listen to the work though. Yeah. Or. But find some joy. After that. Listen to like. Check out the video man. At least the lame comedy after that. That's. Or go on Kelly's. Poys. We'll have those. Poys. We'll have both those. She's actually writing some new books. Fran. Yeah. And if you don't have her books. Go get her books.

[00:27:59] Then we're going to have those listed. In the show note. And go from there. Yes. So find them. And then. We need any of that stuff. Let us know. And hey. Reach out. If you know someone who. In the social media world. Marketing. Whatever. And. Let's see how it's different for them. And. How they find peace. Or. The self-help. Insure us. All right everybody. Have a great. June. I'll be here. In my team. I'm driving. I turn my hand. That's right.

[00:28:28] Playing ball game with. It'll be better with Zoom. I made it. Because I can take over the podcast. I made it to first base. I was running to second base. Buffalo pop. Crawled to second base. I was safe. We did beat them. I think the score was either 17-4 or 14-4. Again. I. I'm going to be one. I have to have some surgery. Give me a prayer. The way I do. I do. Where you. Ask the healing spell. I don't know. Because God. God.

[00:28:59] Or I'm going to sell them. Buddha. Buddha or booty? That's you. Park booty? Or just real booty? Pardon. Right everybody. This is a long goodbye. But that's okay. Have a great. Do better people. Respect each other. What's up? I think. We have. Have we talked about holidays coming up? The first holiday. Well. Fourth of July is coming to celebrate 250 years of our natin. Right? Guess what?

[00:29:26] If it's the first movie you haven't gone somewhere to a parade with your ex. Or you haven't gone to the in-laws for a picnic or all things. Schedule something. Go do something. Find some peace. Finding new pattern. If you don't have your kids this time. Enjoy yourself. I don't know all the celebrations that are happening. But you know. There are some soccer stuff going on. Hey. Did you see those Danish guys in Boston? Maybe. Maybe take a trip to Boston. Oh. It's been fun. So. Be kind to yourself. Prepare. Prepare.

[00:29:56] Prepare. Try not to overthink it. If it's not your time with the kids. If it is. You're going to have. Some moments where it's like. Oh. We used to do this with daddy. Or we used to do this with my ex. Whatever it is. So. Again. Fourth of July. 250. We can do it folks. We can. Do better and. Alright everybody. Love ya. Bye. Bye.